N. Raghuraman’s column – Forgiving does not mean forgetting, it means only remembering without anger. N. Raghuraman’s Column: To forgive does not mean to forget, only to remember without anger.

N. Raghuraman, Management Guru

“What do you like most about having no work?” The reason I ask this question is mostly to Baby Boomers (people born between 1946 and 1964) because everyone born during the above period will have to retire by December 2024 as they turn 60. Will go.

I have been doing this practice for the last one year and there is no space to write the negative things mentioned by them here. The most common things were loss of identity, financial crisis, and boredom. Very few said that now they would have the opportunity to learn something without a set work week. Let me tell you about some more positive things.

“Chair-time” with your spouse: Have you ever enjoyed two hours of coffee sitting in your favorite chair? Read the newspaper from the masthead till the last line where it says – “Printed and Published”? Have you ever let a pet dog jump into your lap and then watched it jump and run to chase away stray dogs coming to the main entrance of the house?

You can talk about things that you could not do with your spouse due to various reasons after marriage. You can try sorting dry leaves with scissors in hand and enjoy the beauty of the scissors! Yes, I found ‘Ciselier’ to be one of the most beautiful scissors in the world and recently bought some for myself during my trip to America. Doing small things and gaining new knowledge brings a lot of happiness.

Forgive those who have hurt you the most: There are few lucky people in this world who have never been hurt – whether because of rivalry in office politics or because of fighting for a cause. Take a deep breath, remember their bad behavior towards you and tell them out loud – “I forgive you.” And do this honestly to keep yourself healthy.

Becoming a Servant Leader for the Family: Servant Leadership is a term from the Australian cricket team, in which the leader chooses someone else to play instead of him to win the match. Let your children handle everything for the next five years and enjoy the trips. Be the man with a plan, the friend with an attitude, and the wonderful retired gentleman!

Establishing a balance between food and sleep: For years, we have been eating as per the office lunch-time set by our parents, then teachers and then HR. From now on, eat only when your body tells you it is hungry. Similarly, you don’t need to drink two cups of coffee to stay awake and complete an office PPT. You can give your body enough rest when it needs it.

No planning, so no worries: Since you don’t have to make a plan for the next quarter’s sales of the company’s products and present it to the board by the evening, you can put your thoughts to rest. You can always say “See you later”, like your boss always used to say to you.

You can get involved in reading clubs, card playing troupes, etc. and even take your pet on trips or simple walks. The fun part about doing these things is that you don’t have to do any of it if you don’t want to. It is in your power to cancel anything.

The bottom line is that It’s easy to update documents, including digital assets like your email passwords, so that your children can access them after you. But it is more important to forgive those who have hurt you, because it heals your soul, body and mind during retirement.